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AITA for being upset that my boyfriend's family scheduled a vacation over our anniversary?
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Okay, so the part of this story that gets me is the fact that she wasn't invited on the family trip. My own soon-to-be MIL has been inviting me on vacations since I started dating my fiance! I can't imagine feeling excluded like that after 3 years.
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I do find that this focus on a “dating anniversary” is pretty selfish. I'm sorry, but it's just not that big of a deal! I've had to postpone my own with my partner because of scheduling issues. Sometimes it's not possible to celebrate on the exact day, and that is totally fine.
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Mom excludes son's girlfriend from family cruise and plans it on the couple's 3-year anniversary, he chooses to go on the trip: ‘Let’s do one last family vacation before life gets in the way'
When someone refers to their anniversary, your mind probably jumps to a wedding anniversary. However, couples these days are waiting longer than ever to actually tie the knot. So, most youngsters like to celebrate a "dating" anniversary each year before they walk down the aisle. Some people choose the date that one or the other finally asked "What are we?" And made it Facebook official. I never really had that conversation with my now-fiance. Instead, we choose to celebrate on the anniversary of the day that we met for the first time. Either way, this now special date and our traditions around it will probably fade over time in favor of our wedding anniversary.
It makes sense that a wedding anniversary would outshine a "dating" anniversary. Because older generations tended to date for shorter periods before getting married, the whole concept of the latter might even be totally foreign to them. That's the situation this young woman finds herself in today when her boyfriend's mom plans a family vacation on their 3-year anniversary. Sure, she doesn't even have an engagement ring yet, but three years is enough to be considered a long-term relationship, and the couple have just overcome a rough patch that deserves a celebration. To make matters worse, she's not even invited on the trip. Now she's left wondering if she's selfish for wishing her boyfriend would choose her over his family, or if her feelings of being sidelined have some merit.